Sex Therapy

In your head during sex? Do you have a hard time being present in your body? Do you worry about performance or how quickly or slowly things will happen? Do you know what it takes for your body to get aroused or for desire to turn on? Does sex ever hurt? We know that our mind and body have an intense connection and that through therapy, we can learn how to ground ourselves, find pleasure, reduce pain, and have fun!

Having a safe and secure bond is a major piece of the foundation for a good intimate connection. Safety leads to the ability to feel present, connected, and vulnerable. Without it, our walls are up and it’s tough to allow ourselves to get close to the other person. Maybe you don’t feel loved, accepted, appreciated, valued, respected, or cared for. We can work to build a strong foundation of security so you can enjoy intimacy again.

Let’s look at power dynamics and equality, gender roles, emotional connection/disconnection, and communication. We might reframe ideas around what sex “should” look like, heal from old attachment injuries, and break down barriers to asking for what you want/need. If you don’t feel respected, understood, or valued by your partner- you’re probably not going to want to get close to them physically- it’s too risky. We’ll work to reconnect you both so there is enough safety to get close again.

Psychological and medical issues can influence desire, pain, and performance. Depression, anxiety, sexual and relational trauma, perimenopause and menopause, the post-partum period, autoimmune disorders, and medication side effects can contribute to issues with intimacy.